It is said that decisions build on top of one another until they create your destiny.  Think, “butterfly effect.”  About 50 years ago, Edward Lorenz, a scientist, posited that the butterfly could flap its wings and set molecules of air in motion that could eventually create a hurricane on the other side of the world.   It was initially laughed at by the New York Academy of Science as ridiculous.  Years later, physics professors proved this theory was accurate and viable.

What are some examples of the butterfly effect when you want to escape or prevent devastation caused by unhealthy relationships?  For starters, you can delete phone numbers.  Don’t look at them one more time lest you remember them.                                                                                                                                          Decline the call when you recognize the number.                                                                 Find some new activities; develop new skill sets.  Soon, you’ll realize that the recurring thoughts are gone!  It may be a week, a month, or a new season already and you haven’t thought about or even mentioned him.   You are being transformed, like the caterpillar, into the butterfly you were meant to be.                  Congratulate yourself!

“If any man, (or woman) be in Christ they are a new creature.  Old things are passed away and behold, all things are become new.”  (II Cor. 5:17)